It’s incredibly refreshing to listen to marriage advice that is plucked from simple truths easy for ordinary people to emulate… This kind of motivational, responsible, and attainable behavior to better ourselves (for each other) is especially helpful during a time when we ordinaries are being inundated with the complexities of celebrity dramas in the form of Jada and Will or Johnny and Amber…
Your natural, healthy relationship with your beautiful wife is what should be making headlines. Thank you.
Outstanding advice as always from one wise cookie. I was looking forward to your insight on her more specific point in the question about being a married couple who’s opting to not have children. It certainly comes with its challenges, like meeting friends and other couples. My wife and I are in our mid-30’s, and after some very difficult and honest discussions, we’ve decided that having children is not for us. Meeting other people our age is difficult because most do have young children. It’s not that we have anything against that - not at all. But a big thing we’ve noticed is that the couple with kids often feels like we simply cannot relate to them, so the friendships typically trickle off. And of course they’re navigating all the difficulties in raising a child which we understand is a major constraint on their time and resources (which is one of many reasons we’ve opted out). But it does feel like the couple with kids often judges us and looks to us as “taking the easy way” bc we’ve opted to not have children.
Nick, do you have any advice or thoughts on this aspect?
Wise thoughts once again, sir. This is certainly how it has worked for my wife and I for the 22 years, 19 married, that we have been together. Like everything, if it is worth having, it is worth working for.
Your sound relationship advice and the beautiful, realistic example of a healthy marriage which you and Megan so kindly share glimpses of, are being saved in my memory until the day I'll be able to put them into practice in my own life. In the meantime, I'll just sit here and bask in your wisdomness. 😊
Thank you for sharing your love of love, and your peaceful partnership with Megan.
My question is about food scarcity. As much as possible, I know it's important to shop local and sustainable. I also believe food scarcity in the US is going to be a reality within 1-2 generations. Sure there might be Human Food Product or some other manufactured solution, but in the meantime - what foods should a Midwest gardener learn to cultivate in order to sustainably feed a family? Our growing season is quite short, so suggestions to maximize the outdoor growing season or grow indoors using grow lights, etc. would be helpful. I understand gardening possibly isn't your expertise, but maybe some of your Illinois family might have some suggestions? Thanks for putting some good into the world!
Really good advice because you focus on both the large and small issues (death by a thousand spoiled condiment jars). In a healthy relationship, you try to be your best self, which includes helping your partner be their best self. 99 times out of 100 this requires listening rather than speaking. This bold turnabout will result in bountiful rewards and is worth much more than any advice you give. IMHO.
Whilst I enjoy listening to the dulcet sounds of your voice, there are times when simply seeing the wonderful words flowing over your manly stubbled face is preferred to sound. Is it possible to get subtitles?
I absolutely agree with you, Nick. My husband and I have been together for 42 years and married for 38 years. He is my rock and I am his through richer, or poorer, through sickness and health. We have weathered it all together, and will continue to do so until death do us part. Looking forward to reading yours and your wife’s book. Many blessings to you and Megan.🦋
It’s incredibly refreshing to listen to marriage advice that is plucked from simple truths easy for ordinary people to emulate… This kind of motivational, responsible, and attainable behavior to better ourselves (for each other) is especially helpful during a time when we ordinaries are being inundated with the complexities of celebrity dramas in the form of Jada and Will or Johnny and Amber…
Your natural, healthy relationship with your beautiful wife is what should be making headlines. Thank you.
I love all the wonderful advice about love, but you fronting your wife's book is the most romantic thing I ever heard. So dreamy <3 <3 <3
Sincerely, an Author...
P.S. Seriously, this is some of the most beautiful Marriage advice I have heard. Thank you Nick.
Outstanding advice as always from one wise cookie. I was looking forward to your insight on her more specific point in the question about being a married couple who’s opting to not have children. It certainly comes with its challenges, like meeting friends and other couples. My wife and I are in our mid-30’s, and after some very difficult and honest discussions, we’ve decided that having children is not for us. Meeting other people our age is difficult because most do have young children. It’s not that we have anything against that - not at all. But a big thing we’ve noticed is that the couple with kids often feels like we simply cannot relate to them, so the friendships typically trickle off. And of course they’re navigating all the difficulties in raising a child which we understand is a major constraint on their time and resources (which is one of many reasons we’ve opted out). But it does feel like the couple with kids often judges us and looks to us as “taking the easy way” bc we’ve opted to not have children.
Nick, do you have any advice or thoughts on this aspect?
Compromise, revolution and maintenance....... perfect... and just what I needed to hear SOMEONE say
Wise thoughts once again, sir. This is certainly how it has worked for my wife and I for the 22 years, 19 married, that we have been together. Like everything, if it is worth having, it is worth working for.
15 years married and almost 24 years together. Still love him!
You gotta just let things go. Small slights and annoyances, let it go!
Your sound relationship advice and the beautiful, realistic example of a healthy marriage which you and Megan so kindly share glimpses of, are being saved in my memory until the day I'll be able to put them into practice in my own life. In the meantime, I'll just sit here and bask in your wisdomness. 😊
Thank you for sharing your love of love, and your peaceful partnership with Megan.
My question is about food scarcity. As much as possible, I know it's important to shop local and sustainable. I also believe food scarcity in the US is going to be a reality within 1-2 generations. Sure there might be Human Food Product or some other manufactured solution, but in the meantime - what foods should a Midwest gardener learn to cultivate in order to sustainably feed a family? Our growing season is quite short, so suggestions to maximize the outdoor growing season or grow indoors using grow lights, etc. would be helpful. I understand gardening possibly isn't your expertise, but maybe some of your Illinois family might have some suggestions? Thanks for putting some good into the world!
Jessie - Chicago suburbs, Illinois
Really good advice because you focus on both the large and small issues (death by a thousand spoiled condiment jars). In a healthy relationship, you try to be your best self, which includes helping your partner be their best self. 99 times out of 100 this requires listening rather than speaking. This bold turnabout will result in bountiful rewards and is worth much more than any advice you give. IMHO.
Whilst I enjoy listening to the dulcet sounds of your voice, there are times when simply seeing the wonderful words flowing over your manly stubbled face is preferred to sound. Is it possible to get subtitles?
I absolutely agree with you, Nick. My husband and I have been together for 42 years and married for 38 years. He is my rock and I am his through richer, or poorer, through sickness and health. We have weathered it all together, and will continue to do so until death do us part. Looking forward to reading yours and your wife’s book. Many blessings to you and Megan.🦋